n the light of the types of communications that most youths disperse on social media to individuals they barely know personally, one cannot help but to think if letter-writing skills are no longer taught in secondary schools.
People nowadays frequently send messages to complete strangers, such as “Hello, dude,” “Hi, angel,” “Good pm,” and so on. They pretend to greet someone and then wait for a reaction/reply. “Good day, sir” or “Good day, ma’am,” for example, may be used to sound more official. They, too, do not carry forth their message, as did the earlier group of people. Before announcing their mission, they wait for a response. They want to “chat” with the recipient rather than send a message, to put it another way.
Many young individuals who use social media appear to have adopted the belief that conversing (chatting) is the best method to achieve what they want. They will be able to confirm/verify that their message has been received in this manner. They can also be certain of receiving a prompt response this way.
If the greeting is returned, they will follow up with a question such as, “How was your night?”, “What are your plans for the day”, “How is your day going?”, and so on. They truly anticipate a response from the individual. Remember, this is someone who has never met them in person. Even though they are “friends” on social media, neither of them has had any memorable conversations that have led to them seeing each other as close friends. Furthermore, the sender’s genuine name and photograph may not be displayed. However, such a person appears to be interested in conversing (chatting).
Surprisingly, many of these folks report that their messages go unanswered. They attribute it to the hubris of such people who believe they are celebrities.
If you are one of those that uses that format to reach out to individuals, there is need for a rethink and readjustment of your approach to receive better outcomes.
Desist from sending or saying “Good day, ma,” “Good day, sir,” “Hi” or “Hello” to individuals you barely have a relationship with in real life on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, WhatsApp, LinkedIn, and other social media platforms, and then waiting for them to respond before telling them what you want to say. Scammers and eternal “storytellers” employ this format. As a result, most serious people will ignore your “Good day,” “Hi,” or “Hello” message. You will eventually accuse them of being conceited or snobbish. You, on the other hand, are the issue. When formal letter-writing structure was taught in class, you most likely had played truant.
You do not send an email with a “Hello” and wait for a response before explaining your goal if you wish to apply for a job or inquire about a firm. You do not start a call to an office or an executive who is not a friend in real life with “Hello.” How did you spend your evening? How are you and your family doing?”
By sending a welcome and waiting for a response before announcing your objective, you may believe you are being kind and respectful, but you are actually demonstrating that you are not serious. In a formal context, you are utilizing an informal format. It will only provoke a negative rather than a favorable response.
Many individuals avoid responding to those who say merely “Hi,” “Hello,” or “Good day,” because the stories begin the moment they react. If they are not trying to start a fraud, they are either seeking a romantic relationship, begging for money, or attempting to sell something. And, since it is an internet chat, there is no way to verify the authenticity of their assertions.
As a result, if you have anything important to say to someone on social media, do not let your message go unnoticed because you choose the wrong method. “When you have to shoot, shoot; don’t talk,” says Tuco in the classic film, The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly.
Rather than just saying “Hi” and waiting for someone who does not know you in person or has not bond with you on social media, why not say:
“Good day, Mr. Okon,
I enjoyed reading your article especially those centered on youth development and apprenticeship.
“I would like to bid for your audience to participate in our WhatsApp group, ‘Truth 4 Youths’, on any weekend of your choosing. Members will ask you questions centered on youth development, to which you will respond. It is expected to last two hours.
“Please confirm your availability as well as the day you wish to be featured.
“We would be grateful for the opportunity to benefit from your wealth of knowledge.
“Telephone/WhatsApp: 0801 234 5678.”
If this person reads it but does not answer, send a reminder a week or two later. Because there are so many other things vying for the person’s attention, the person may have read it and forgotten to answer. The importance of the reminder cannot be overstated.
If that person does not answer after the reminder, you can infer that they are one of those people who do not like to respond to demands that they do not want to honour. However, the person is more likely to respond to you because you have demonstrated that you are serious and that you know how to speak in a formal manner, which millions of other young people lack. More importantly, you have demonstrated that you are neither a fraudster or a “storyteller” who hops from one email to another.
Even if your aim is simply to congratulate the person on a fantastic article or video Tutorials he/she puts out online, do so right away in your first message. Do not inquire about their day/night/family/career. It is not your concern. Those who are not your friends get irritated by such inquiries. You can only ask such personal inquiries from your friends and relatives.
Above all, do not simply type and submit your message. Spend some time editing, proofreading, and fine-tuning it. It is a turn-off to read a message that is ridden with mistakes and typographical errors. Do not blame your phone’s auto-correct feature for turning “Efe” into “Fee” or “Owerri” into “Worries.” Before sending your message out, draft it and evaluate it for an hour or so, or a day. Remember, like a serious business, you do not want to come up short!
Show that you are a serious individual who understands formal communication to set yourself apart. Be professional in your demeanor, your actions, and your speech. You will see an increase in the number of outcomes.